#087: Stop Keeping Score With Your Partner. Feat. Dr Abby Medcalf PHD
Abby went from being terrible at relationships to being great at them. She’s a psychologist who believes a leopard can change their spots and as a recovering heroin addict, she knows what she’s talking about.
We cover:
- We’re as happy as our relationship.
- To be good at relationships takes skills you're not born with but you can learn those skills.
- We’re mostly competing for attention and time - turning relationship into work:
“You have to pull your weight.”
“You have to take this off my plate.”
“You have to do your fair share.”
- Being correct or effective: Which would you choose to have a more peaceful relationship?
- Competing over Sex, Chores and Money, and what questions to ask your partner to help resolve it & how to reframe you perspective.
- Abby’s method of: don’t S.A.C. your relationship, instead ask questions.
Mentioned in this episode: The work of Timothy Wilson
Find Abby https://abbymedcalf.com/
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