#037: What Makes A Narcissist & How To Leave One? With Shannon Higgins, M.A., LPC-S

This is part 2 of our 3 part mini-series on hidden abuse, narcissism & gaslighting, part 1 is ep. #028: Did You just Gaslight Me?

*Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised.*

We go over:

// Hidden abuse, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, treated with unfair ways of shame & hurt either physically, spiritually, financially and litigation abuse.

// Why those who have experienced trauma are feeling fine/better than most during this pandemic.

// We recap what a narcissist is from a healthy one to the dark triad.

// The nr:1 distinction you need to know between a healthy narcissist and a machiavellian one.

// The sociopath next door, like in the Netflix series: ‘You’, and ‘Dirty John’.

// The dangers of leaving a narcissist.

// The differences between a male and female narcissist aka somatic, stepford wive traits and charm, power and control.

// What makes a narcissist?

// Why ‘friends/colleagues/family’ align with the Narcissistic abuser out of fear, not out of genuine connection.

// Why narcissists are prevalent in positions of power.

// Why won’t people leave their abusive partner?

// Trauma bond aka Stockholm syndrome.

// The oxytocin , epinephrine and adrenaline connection that happens each time the abuser gains any trust.

// Why a secure person can become codependent in an abusive relationship.

// Why it's so hard to prove that type of abuse in court when trying to divorce from a hidden abuser / narcissist.

// You’ve built up the courage to leave, now what?

// What are the sure signs at the beginning of dating that the person is toxic.

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